Off-Script | Episode 2 |
Jeremy Brown : Lead Pastor
Most of us are living by scripts we never chose
How are scripts formed?
Life Happens
Questions are asked
Assumptions are made
Assumptions become scripts
Scripts quietly run our lives
What is the source of scripts?
- Upbringing
- Painful Experience
- Culture
- Our Own Interpretation
Cultural Scripts
- Identity
- Enough
- Relationships
- Control
- Spiritual
Cultural Scripts
- Identity
Success = Value
"I've got to be or appear more successful"
Cultural Scripts
- Identity
- Enough
If some is good, more is better
"Contentment is ALWAYS one step away"
Cultural Scripts
- Identity
- Enough
- Relationships
People will let you down
"It's okay to be close, but not that close"
Cultural Scripts
- Identity
- Enough
- Relationships
- Control
Control or be controlled
"If I don't, it won't"
Cultural Scripts
- Identity
- Enough
- Relationships
- Control
- Spiritual
I shouldn't still be dealing with this/ God is disappointed in me/ See there
"God is as good and trustworthy as my current situation"
"Your father was a hard master", they said. "Lighten the harsh labor demands and heavy taxes that your father imposed on us. Then we will be your loyal subjects."
2 Chronicles 10:4
The older counselors replied, "If you are good to these people and do your best to please them and give them a favorable answer, they will always be your loyal subjects"
2 Chronicles 10:7
These young men replied, "This is what you should tell those complainers who want a lighter burden: My little finger is thicker than my father's waist! Yes, my father laid heavy burdens on you, but I'm going to make them heavier! My father beat you with whips, but I will beat you with scorpions!"
2 Chronicles 10:10-11
So the king paid no attention to the people... When all Israel realized that the king had refused to listen to them, they responded... So all the people of Israel returned home.
2 Chronicles 10:15-16
Rehoboam's Scripts
Power = Pressure
Leadership = Dominance
Respect = Fear
Rehoboam's Scripts
Power = Pressure
Leadership = Dominance
Respect = Fear
Rehoboam didn't want to ruin the kingdom- He was just listing to the wrong script
Real Men Scripts
- Don't show emotion
- Handle it alone
- Never admit weakness
- Provide at all costs
- Anger is acceptable, sadness is not
Real Men Scripts
- Don't show emotion
- Handle it alone
- Never admit weakness
- Provide at all costs
- Anger is acceptable, sadness is not
OUTCOME:
Isolated men, bottled emotions, hidden struggles
Successful Women Scripts
- Do it all and look put together while doing it
- Be strong and not intimidating
- Be confident but not 'too much'
- Never drop the ball at work or at home
Successful Women Scripts
- Do it all and look put together while doing it
- Be strong and not intimidating
- Be confident but not 'too much'
- Never drop the ball at work or at home
OUTCOME:
Exhaustion, guilt, quite pressure to prove worth- constantly
Good Parent Scripts
- Your child's success is your report card
- Be involved in everything
- Don't let them struggle
- Always be available
Good Parent Scripts
- Your child's success is your report card
- Be involved in everything
- Don't let them struggle
- Always be available
OUTCOME:
Anxious parents, over-scheduled kids, families running on fumes
